Many children become bolder, less confident, believe other
people are better than them, believe in them with firmness in their skills,
seek other people's approval for physical exercise and parents are often the
cause of this problem. Being a parent brings with it great responsibility and
caution. Most of the time, children’s lives are ruined not by them but by the
perfect actions of their parents.
Most parents have certain actions that not only kill their
child's self-confidence but also make them useless, which can harm their
future. The painful part is that most parents do not know how some of their
activities affect their children. Check out these things in our article that
will help you prevent them.
1.
Constantly using offensive and frustrating words
when trying to correct your children.
Most parents use constantly offensive and
frustrating words on their children when children make certain mistakes or
upset them which affects their children.
You use words like, useless, no sense,
wasting your money on it, you fail.
Hearing such words, a child may grow up
feeling unnecessarily, less important or valuable especially when they hear
such words from other people. It makes them understand that yes- it is
worthless, useless and a failure, it kills their self-confidence, makes them
feel inferior and ultimately ruins their lives.
2.
When you always compare your child with their
siblings or coworkers.
Each child is unique in different ways.
Reprimanding or persuading your child to compare them to their siblings or
peers can result in inferiority complex.
When he grows up he may think other people
are better than him and it kills their self-confidence. Instead of comparing,
encourage your child to improve.
3.
Assess a child's intellectual ability based
solely on their reading
Many parents use their educational skills
to grade their child's intelligence. Kids are less efficient. They believe that
their kids are not fit and intelligent, doing so can ruin the child’s future.
4.
Being authoritarian and demanding blind
allegiance.
Your kids become cowardly and obedient when
you are too domineering. They also believe that they do not have the
qualifications. They feel powerless and others are stronger than them. Instead
of being an authority and demanding blind allegiance from them, you should
teach them to create a sense of independence and respect the authorities at the
same time. Explain to them why they want you as a parent but give them some leadership
and some independence.
5.
Trying to fulfil their hopes by living their
lives:
Most parents want to plan their child's
life from birth to marriage, the future and more than that based on what they
want for themselves. It does irreparable damage and makes them quite dependent
and unavoidable about the simple choices of life. Let them have some freedom.
Let them make their own choices and respect and support the way they want to
live.
6.
Always praise your child for success or for
doing something good.
For some reason, most parents do not
appreciate their children doing something good. Children need praise for
determining the positivity of their performance and for helping them to
continue such behavior.
Your appreciation for their accomplishments
or for doing something good develops their skills and positive self-worth.
7.
Expect perfection
Most parents want their children to aim for
the big goals and be the best at everything, but things don't work out that
way. Noticing too high expectations will lead to life problems of self-esteem
and self-confidence in the future. Your kids should build mental strength by
making sure expectations are realistic.
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